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Oct 16, 2015 5:41 PMPublication: The Southampton Press

UPDATE: New Details Emerge In Case Of Missing Sagaponack Woman

Lilia Aucapina of Sagaponack was last seen at the Meeting House Lane Medical Practice in Wainscott on October 10. Her husband, Carlos R. Aucapina, was arrested by East Hampton Town Police for criminal contempt. LAURA WEIR
Oct 20, 2015 4:21 PM

UPDATE: Tuesday, 3:30 p.m.

Attorney Colin Astarita of Astarita & Associates, who represents Carlos Aucapina, said his client was accused of violating the order of protection twice because he first drove past his wife's home in Sagaponack—which is in the Town of Southampton—before he caught up with her in Wainscott at the Meeting House Lane Medical Practice.

"When he approached her and asked to talk, she said that she didn't want to speak with him and that he needed to leave, which he did," Mr. Astarita said. "So, technically, driving past the house was a violation, as was speaking with her," he added.

Mr. Astarita said that the Aucapina's have been married for more than 20 years and have two children together, a 14-year-old daughter and 21-year-old son.

He added, "Carlos is a devoted father and a very hard-working individual who is extremely concerned about his wife's disappearance."

Mr. Astarita suggested that Ms. Aucapina had a new relationship and did not tell anyone in her family.

"We believe and are hopeful that due to the stress of the divorce and a new relationship coming to light that she may have left the area temporarily," he said.

UPDATE: Monday, 4:30 p.m.

Southampton Town Police said Monday that while they have not ruled out Lilia Aucapina’s estranged husband as a suspect in her disappearance, nor do they have any evidence specifically linking him to the mystery.

According to Lieutenant James Kiernan, Carlos Aucapina has repeatedly told police that he does not know where Ms. Aucapina is. He had been accused twice of violating an order of protection right before she went missing, on the morning of October 10. But that alone is not enough to link him to her disappearance, Lt. Kiernan said.

According to the arrest and incident reports filed by East Hampton Town Police at East Hampton Town Justice Court, Ms. Aucapina was with a male friend, Angel Tejada, when Mr. Aucapina confronted them at the Meeting House Lane Medical Practice on Saturday morning, October 10. According to Mr. Tejada’s statement, Mr. Aucapina accused him of having an affair with Ms. Aucapina.

Mr. and Ms. Aucapina are in the process of a divorce in Suffolk County Family Court, where Justice Martha Luft issued the stay away order.

According to Mr. Tejada’s statement, he called police because he was fearful that the altercation with Mr. Aucapina would become physical. Police said Ms. Aucapina was not involved in the altercation at all, but she was present.

Mr. Tejada told police that he and Ms. Aucapina have known each other for several months and were walking from his house on Clyden Road in Wainscott to pick up her car, which was parked at the Meeting House Lane Medical Practice. She had left it there the night before because she spent the night at Mr. Tejada’s house.

According to Mr. Tejada’s statement, Mr. Aucapina called Ms. Aucapina’s brother, Carlos Parra, who “started saying bad stuff to Lilia and he was trying to start a fight with me.” Mr. Tejada then called the police and both Mr. Parra and Mr. Aucapina left the parking lot of the medical practice.

When asked if there were any leads on Ms. Aucapina’s whereabouts, Lt. Kiernan said, “I wish.”

Police are continuing to search for any trace of her whereabouts, including even pieces of clothing that could be located in the woods.

Ms. Aucapina is a Hispanic female with brown eyes and medium-length black hair. Police said she is 5 foot 3 inches tall and weighs 130 pounds. When she was last seen, she had her hair up and was wearing blue jeans, brown boots and a black winter jacket.

Southampton Town Police are requesting help from the public to find Ms. Aucapina. Anyone with information on her whereabouts should contact Southampton Town Police Detectives at (631) 702-2230, or (631) 728-3400; write to crimetips@southamptontownny.gov; or call 911.

Original Story

The husband of a missing Sagaponack woman faces criminal charges of violating an order of protection and has not yet been ruled out as a suspect in her disappearance, according to Southampton Town Police.

Meanwhile, police are “desperately” combing wooded areas near the homes of both the missing woman and her husband, looking for a trace of her whereabouts.

Carlos Aucapina—no age was provided— has been charged with misdemeanor criminal contempt by both Southampton Town Police and East Hampton Town Police after he was accused, in separate incidents, of violating an order of protection in the two jurisdictions just before Lilia Aucapina, 40, went missing on Saturday, October 10.

According to Southampton Town Police Lieutenant James Kiernan, the morning Ms. Aucapina went missing, she and her husband were involved in a verbal dispute at Meeting House Lane Medical Practice on Montauk Highway in Wainscott.

Mr. Aucapina admitted to Southampton Town Police on Saturday that he violated an order of protection by speaking with his wife, and he was subsequently arrested and charged with criminal contempt by that department.

Mr. Aucapina had been arraigned and released on $10,000 bail on Thursday at Southampton Town Justice Court—and then was immediately arrested by East Hampton Town Police in connection with the criminal contempt that occurred in Wainscott on Saturday morning, just before she disappeared. He was later arraigned on Friday in East Hampton Town Justice Court.

“We can’t rule him out and we can’t rule anybody out,” Lt. Kiernan said of Mr. Aucapina when asked about suspects in his wife’s disappearance. “Every single possibility is wide open right now.”

Ms. Aucapina, who is originally from Ecuador, was last seen at 9 a.m. Saturday at the Meeting House Medical Practice. “She doesn’t miss church on Saturday afternoon—and she didn’t show up to her church,” Lt. Kiernan said, adding that her brother reported her missing on Saturday night.

Homeland Security told Southampton Town Police that Ms. Aucapina’s passport has not left the country. “We know that and are looking at every avenue we possibly can,” Lt. Kiernan said. “Right now, what our efforts have been since Saturday is combing miles and miles of wooded areas, areas around both houses where the husband and the woman that is missing live.”

He added, “I have to find this woman—we are trying desperately everything we can.”

Although Southampton Town Police is handling the case, because Ms. Aucapina resides in Sagaponack, the Suffolk County district attorney’s office, Suffolk County Police and the U.S. Marshals Service are all helping to narrow down the search area and the likely places Ms. Aucapina could be. Soon, the Southampton Town bay constables will search around different lake areas, Lt. Kiernan explained.

“We are hopeful that a safe return is imminent,” he added, “but we also have to look at the possibility that there is not going to be a safe return.”

Southampton Town Police issued a Code Red alert on Friday night and is requesting anyone with additonal information to contact Southampton Town Detectives at (631) 728-3400, or call 911 and ask for the Southampton Town Police Department,

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I'm not saying this guy is guilty, but very few adults are kidnapped or killed by a stranger. I hope this lady is found, and is hiding in a safe place.
By chief1 (2800), southampton on Oct 16, 15 6:25 PM
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By nazznazz (276), east hampton on Oct 16, 15 8:49 PM
Really, what kind of Neanderthal-ish, trailer-trash attitude is that? You think the only crime white people commit is robbing banks from Wall Street? When will you wake up and realize that being Hispanic has nothing to do with a propensity to commit violent crime. There are plenty of recent incidents in the news that were committed by non-hispanics.
By Funbeer (273), Southampton on Oct 16, 15 9:07 PM
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By Nukiepoo (123), Southampton on Oct 17, 15 11:26 AM
Please don't insult the Neanderthals.

They were bright, and inventive people, not the dullards Victorian era "science" presumed them to be.
By Mr. Z (11847), North Sea on Oct 20, 15 8:40 PM
I just wonder why the police didn't send out the phone red alert days ago. Why wait until almost a week after this poor woman's disappearance? I hope she is hiding with friends after being confronted by her husband in violation of her order of protection.
By Crabby (63), Southampton on Oct 16, 15 11:50 PM
remember the Sister...
By LI native (127), LI on Oct 21, 15 12:06 AM
Please tell me Lt James "Barney Fife" isn't in charge of this investigation!! If so, I pity the woman and her family. This incompetent fool has "gotta find this woman!"- how about finding the murderer who ran down the nun??!! How's that investigation coming?
By PoliticallyIncorrect (45), earth on Oct 17, 15 11:39 AM
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Sister Jackie Walsh was mowed down and left to die on the side of Rose Hill Road in Water Mill on Monday, July 9, 2012 -- just over 39 months ago. At a minimum Supv. Throne-Holst and the Town Board could order the SHT PD to make all investigative material public. Many questions remain . . .
By PBR (4956), Southampton on Oct 17, 15 12:54 PM
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wait a sec you're accusing me of having a trailer park attitude and your name is "Funbeer"???
By nazznazz (276), east hampton on Oct 17, 15 4:19 PM
saw the helicopters and the park rangers with trailers and boats today. hope this will not come to a bad end but not looking good. feel she would not run way without her children. may God be with her wherever she is.
By xtiego (698), bridgehampton on Oct 17, 15 8:29 PM
Getting the police alert overman week after she went missing was shocking. The scant reporting by all news agencies and infrequent updates is also frustrating and counterproductive to finding Ms. Aucapina. If this had happened anywhere else, it would be top priority.
By bambi (76), bridgehampton on Oct 19, 15 8:25 AM
*over a *
By bambi (76), bridgehampton on Oct 19, 15 8:26 AM
Every time this story is updated, the Press should repost Ms. Aucapina's picture.
By Mrs.Sea (268), Sag Harbor on Oct 20, 15 11:23 AM
Any leads? "I wish" - -Lt Barney Fife Kiernan. Wishing isnt gonna find this woman. Why don't you let the detectives run the investigation. Let them do what they are trained for and stay out of their way. We all saw how well you supervised the hit and run nun case.
By PoliticallyIncorrect (45), earth on Oct 20, 15 6:02 PM

South American societies deal with problems with violence --- it's a cultural norm. Murder rates in the Honduras are one of the highest in the world. It's a shame that the East End has to deal with illegal aliens ..... a nun run over and killed, a women killed in Bridgehampton recently at a cross-walk. Too many problems, from overcrowding in homes, minor and major crimes, drugs ...... I presume this guy is legally in the US. If he is not, he should be deported.

By JohnSmith (25), Johnson City, Tennessee on Oct 20, 15 8:26 PM
And The Press deleted MY post and not this one... Right-on, John.
By Nukiepoo (123), Southampton on Oct 24, 15 8:23 PM
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God help her - saying a prayer right now. Husband MUST be a person of interest in this case. If she left without her kids to save herself - to save her own life - imagine what she is going through either way. If she is alive. Then God help the children. Please - Social Services - Child Welfare - take them away and get them some help too. They are surely facing abuse as well.
By Vikki K (490), Southampton on Oct 21, 15 4:32 PM
Perhaps some more signs around the Town would help! Or are political ad signs the only ones allowed? Certainly enough of those!
By Mouthampton (439), Southampton on Oct 21, 15 11:41 PM
Better pictures of Ms. Aucapina would be a good start. The in print photo of her is a joke. This paper must rethink it's priorities. There are much larger photos of the Wainscott Medical Building (not missing) and her estranged husband (also not missing). I hope she is found safe and if so it won't be by the photos in this paper.
By scottso (18), southampton on Oct 23, 15 12:47 PM
Any more recent updates?
By Rich Morey (378), East Hampton on Oct 30, 15 11:15 AM